Have you ever felt little? Not been little, as in short or young, but felt little?
It’s a term we use in our family to describe when we feel a bit overwhelmed or out of our depth, lacking in confidence or strength, a bit poorly or down in the dumps or just in need of a hug. If one of us says we feel little, the other knows it’s not a crisis or a major issue but a moment to offer time and support, probably in a small way – a cup of tea, a simple ‘I love you’, a listening ear for a few minutes.
It’s a lot of meaning for one word, one small word, but it works for us. It works because it’s one of those family words that feels like it belongs only to us, an exclusive codeword that doesn’t need explanation.
We have a family phrase to use in response to someone not feeling so good that also works as a codeword with a depth of meaning. So when one of us says we feel ugly, useless, or little, the straightforward reply comes with the reassurance that we are still loved, still of value, and that there is a bigger perspective than the way we are currently feeling. It’s simply this:
‘But you’re lovely with it.’
Of course, the person who has the best perspective on us is God. He is the one we can always come to when we feel little and his immensity gives us a strong place to hide when we need it. ‘The eternal God is your refuge and underneath are the everlasting arms.’ (Deuteronomy 33.27).
And He always reminds us that we are so much more than how we feel in a given moment: ‘What is mankind that you are mindful of them, human beings that you care for them? You have made them a little lower than the angels and have crowned him with glory and honour.’ (Psalm 8. 4-5).
So remember, next time you’re feeling little, that you’re lovely with it – God says so.